Our minds are filled with ridiculous, limiting, and occasionally damaging thoughts and beliefs. Today I want to talk about the 3 worst mindset mistakes that you might be holding onto — even though they’re holding you back from shining your light as bright as you can. Let’s change that. It’s about time, right?
Mindset Mistake #1: I’ll be happy when…
I’ll be happy when I lose some weight. I’ll be happy when I get a new job. I’ll be happy when I have more money and fix my skin and live in a beach house in California and I’m married to some hot hunk of a man/woman with 3 puppies and a ’66 Thunderbird.
NO. No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
You will not be happy when.
Your happiness isn’t up to your external circumstances.
Your happiness is up to your decision, willingness, and desire.
Your happiness is your goddamn responsibility.
If you are or have been struggling with depression you probably want to slap me right now and that’s okay, because a couple of years ago I would’ve slapped myself too.
But it’s true.
It’s your responsibility to CHOOSE, every single day, to think better thoughts. To shift your negative beliefs.
We do this difficult, heartbreaking, exhausting work so that we can finally be free. So we can finally feel better. Live with an energy of light and lightness.
No one said that it would be easy.
But it gets easier every day as long as you’re willing. As long as you show up for yourself.
You decide. You make the rules for your life.
How do you want to feel?
Mindset Mistake #2: The V card
I confess. I used to love whipping out the V card.
Your version might sound something like this:
I’m a victim. I’m damaged. This terrible thing that happened in the past is responsible for every shitty thing that’s wrong in my life. I’m depressed and sad and broken and hopeless and things will never change. I have suffered traumas I’ll never get past, I had a terrible childhood, I’m surrounded by terrible people, and I’m just going to keep going on and on about everything that’s wrong in my life. I’m going to keep telling stories about my past and believe the things that make me feel horrible every single day because that’s just how life is and I probably deserve it.
Peachy, isn’t it?
No one is trivializing your trauma or your pain. You probably have suffered and been wronged at some point in your life. It’s part of the human experience. We all go through shitty things. And it hurts and it matters but it’s not all that you are or will be. You are worthy of so much more.
And you have the power to shift. You can decide to turn your pain into something empowering. You can choose to be brave and willing to see things differently.
How did you grow from that experience? What did it teach you? How did it make you stronger? How can you use this experience for the highest good, serve others, be the light?
Your negative life experiences are a part of your story, but they’re not your whole identity.
What if you chose to be free?
Mindset Mistake #3: Self-deprecation
As I started to write the outline for this post, I didn’t think this was going to be the third point. I love dark, self-deprecating humor! I’m one of the most sarcastic people I have the honor and privilege of knowing!
It’s good to be able to laugh at yourself and not take life too seriously.
And it tells people that you’re not self-absorbed, you’re just one of them, and you hate yourself just like everybody else, right?
But, oh but.
It’s also kind of an easy, cheap way to get a couple of laughs, right?
And most importantly — every single time you resort to the cheap laugh you’re taking a little jab at yourself. Every time you diminish yourself, you make it a stronger part of your identity to be small, to be less than, to be something to laugh at.
When you tell the same story over and over and over again, even if it’s for fun, even if you don’t really mean it… Your brain will subconsciously start believing it as a truth. It becomes a belief that you hold onto whether you realize it or not and it will manifest itself in your life.
You know what’s REALLY cool?
Fucking loving yourself and being unabashedly unapologetic about it even if the whole world is stuck in their illusions and delusions and denying themselves the self-love they deserve.
How badly do you need to change your mindset?
If you’re ready to face your thoughts and beliefs and do the work to shift them, I have a free challenge I’d love for you to join.
Remember, you are worthy of creating a new reality for yourself.
You are worthy of being free.
You are worthy of owning your light and shining brighter than you ever have before. It’s about fucking time.
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Hi, I’m Viivi! I create magical content for spiritually curious women. I’m here to share my journey and truth with you — unapologetically, with a touch of sarcasm and a lot of heart. I want to help you grow and follow your soul’s desire, not anybody else’s rules. I write weekly about spiritual and personal growth on this blog. You can join the List to receive a weekly letter of inspiration and guidance!