you did not come here to buy into their perception of you

None of us are perfect. 

None of us were ever meant to be.

I may be a little bit chaotic, melancholy, often procrastinating, and struggle with with things here and there. Normal things, you know, the stuff that most people breeze through without a thought.

I’m also intensely introverted and keep my circle miniscule. I have non-conventional, irrational, unrealistic, big bold desires and visions for my life and existence that I’m unapologetic about.

I want more. I deserve more. I was made for more. Just like you.

Recently I discovered that some of these things are… perceived as obstacles. Character flaws. Inconvenient impositions.

Which was baffling.

Because none of these things define me in any way.

I’m not perfect. I have my flaws like everyone else, as us humans tend to do.

But that doesn’t make me any less powerful, worthy, lovable, or magical.

It doesn’t make me a worse coach, mentor, friend, partner, daughter.

It doesn’t make me less of a human being. 

And it certainly doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with me, something that needs to be fixed, figured out, neatly solved and put away.

All it means, really… Is that I just have to figure out creative solutions for myself here and there, and allow myself a lot of grace and extra love on some days. 

And that is all fine.

So here’s something I want to make very clear to you today:

You did not come here to buy into their perception of you.

Other people’s thoughts, opinions, or judgements of you are not your responsibility.

And you are under no obligation to believe in those perceptions, internalize them in any way, or put any stock on them whatsoever.

You get to opt out. You get to say no. You have the power and the choice to not buy into their version of you.

Just because someone’s perception of some aspect of you, your life, your personality, your path so far in life… is less than ideal. Out of the norm. A little bit weird.

‘Well that sounds… challenging. You have so many difficulties. How do you manage with all your limitations?’

Doesn’t mean that you have to believe it or even remotely entertain it. Doesn’t mean you have to give it any power over you. Or allow it to define you in any way.

We are talking about the small stuff here, by the way.

The things that other people find troublesome, limiting, challenging about you, for you…

But you never really thought about it that way.

Until you hear it, and that first tiny spark of doubt sets in for the first time, in some small corner of your heart. What. If.

Do not let it. 

Do not allow anyone that power.

To make you doubt yourself?

Feel like maybe you’re something to be fixed, like your choices are wrong, your path is not sensible, your desires aren’t logical?

I don’t think so.

You are a beautifully complex, messy, divine, weird and wonderful human being.

You have a giant heart and a stubborn wondering mind.

You came here to choose your own path, become whatever you desire, pursue the callings of your soul… Even if nobody gets it. Even if the world doesn’t approve. Even if it’s not acceptable to your friends, family, society all around you.

You do not need permission from anyone to be you. Fully, completely, unapologetically you in your deepest youness. You don’t need permission, acceptance or approval from anyone to create your life as you desire.

You did not come here to buy into their limited perceptions and opinions of you. 

You did not come here to follow someone else’s rules and ideals. 

What are all their rules worth anyway? Not much.

You did not come here to be small and make yourself even smaller to fit into a box made by other people’s standards. 

You did not come here to feel less than.

You are not less than. 

You are divinity in human form. 

You are here to be fully you in all your glory.

So be weird, be unconventional, be inconvenient, be impossible, and do not hold one bit of it back. 

You are allowed to embrace the fullness of you.

You are worthy of shining bright even in all your weirdness.

Despite anyone’s perception or opinion of it.

What do you think? What do you want? How do you feel?

Now that’s what matters.

That’s worth something.

Everything, actually.

Sending you lots of love, from my weird heart to yours,

Viivi

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